In the first step you get the opportunity to look at how different groups have formed you. You have a personal history, and all parts of your story is probably not visible to you. It’s about how your family has shaped you and what patterns you have inherited. It is these that determine how you relate to other people, situations and yourself.
You are also a product of the other groups that you’ve met in life like peer groups, associations, community groups and even the culture that you grew up in.
This step is about to find yourself and your own true identity. Few people know who they are, where they are heading and why. The step is intended to create a channel between the knowledge that reaches us from outside and the inner wisdom. We create during our lifes a number of roles that we play and what we would call a false identity. We are also limited by the experiences and stories about ourselves that has been manifested in the past. This step is about the ability to be free in relation to the past and to look at yourself with fresh eyes to create a more powerful identity.
This step gives you the insight into who you are in relationships – it is about how to create a partnership. The purpose of many relationships are coming together to create and often something new. Sometimes it can be a project or a child but the cause of it can also be that a part of oneself wants to evolve and change.
Beacause of other people our properties comes to light and we come to see who we are. Therefore relationships creates occasions for us to mature and become more complete as individuals. It is not necessarily about being satisfied and happy, it is each person’s own responsibility. But often we project these needs and desires onto others and that is why relationships are often more a burden than a support. Demands and expectations can kill any relationship and it makes it important to get a good understanding in how you give and take in a relationship.
The step is about compassion or love, a topic that many people have an “anguished” delight before. It’s something we want at the same time as it scares us. In most cases people have learned to love conditionally that is if you are good or nice you get sympathy from others and get care but if you are not clever or kind it is taken away from you. Many feel that with love comes a lot of demands and freedom will be limited. What to choose, love or freedom? In this step you train yourself to love and lead people unconditionally. The surroundings will then seem more manageable though really it’s you that has changed. When we practice to create love in Qwan we do not look at love as a feeling that comes and goes. We look at love as a way of being or a point to create from.
When you have made it through the 4 other steps you have created yourself in relation to the group, your identity, relations and love. In step 5 it’s time to take a look at yourself in relation to meaning and goals in life. What do I want to realize in my life, in my work and within in my free time? I need to find my deeper motivations to work effectively towards goals. Here it is important to distinguish what I am passionate about or what could be my innermost longing.
When you start training and using the perspectives in Qwan you can experience that the perspectives are easy to confuse. It’s no wonder because there are no watertight bulkheads between these perspectives. We humans try to describe reality and what we experience with words, but on a deeper level there are no sufficient words. Eventually the perspectives are naturally integrated into your approach. With the integration, a more mature process has often developed.